Tired of Being Misunderstood…A Dear Coach Melanie Letter, Part I

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We all need support through seeking advice and guidance from time to time.  See what Tired of Being Misunderstood had to ask regarding being heard by her/his community and managing their well-being needs in part 1 of my 4-part miniseries of life and well-being advice/guidance seeking open letters from the community and my coaching responses:

Dear Coach Melanie,
I’ve been fighting some health concerns for a while which means I’m often tired, depressed or both and find it difficult to balance my usual workload and commitments.   Continue reading

Validation Station

StampsIt’s the holiday season again and many of us are in hyper mode:  high strung, scurrying about, impatient and feeling under pressure.  It’s also classically a time of year for heightened drama- think of those chaotic family dinners where secrets get spilled, tempers flare and even tears flow.  Trying to manage the “drama queen” amidst all that can leave us spent and wishing for a comfy corner to hide in. Continue reading

Language Arts

Human GearsRecently for fun, a dear friend of mine and I took the 5 Love Languages test together, (I’m an Acts of Service and Physical Touch, for those of you who are curious).  But, it got me to reflecting on how language and listening are all part of the communications hub.  In turning to my own experiences in parenting, friendships and workplace relationships, I realized that over time we often start “tuning out” those around us when they’re attempting to communicate with us:  nodding our head when our spouse vents about their work day, giving noncommittal email responses, throwing out the occasional “uh-huh” when our children rattle on about their play date or some new video game.  As a parent, I catch myself doing this:  “half listening” to my son telling me about his comic book or conversation with a schoolmate.  We all do it.    Continue reading

Communication Quandary

Communication.
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It is such a broad and weighty term.  It’s a subject that commonly comes up in our workplace environment surveys and is frequently noted as a key challenge in our relationships, whether it’s work, family, or friends related.  Perhaps, when we use the word “communication”, what we are really referring to is “effective communication”.   Continue reading

Knowing We’re Growing Together

Two Trees at SunsetOur journey of growth and discovery can find us not always on par with our friends, families, co-workers and partners; our “growth speedometers” are not in sync.  Unfortunately, this can sometimes lead to unwanted conflict and tension in our relationships.   Continue reading