Creating Positive Online Communities

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One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people.

He said, “My son, the battle is between two “wolves” inside us all.

One is Evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.

The other is good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith.”

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather: “Which wolf wins?”

The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed.”

— Cherokee proverb

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ID Please!

It took me many years to fully appreciate my individual quirks and to realize it is through our diversity that we offer a uniqueness in service to the world(s) we live in; each soulful, authentic person being a piece of the jigsaw puzzle of human interconnectedness. Continue reading

Language Arts

Human GearsRecently for fun, a dear friend of mine and I took the 5 Love Languages test together, (I’m an Acts of Service and Physical Touch, for those of you who are curious).  But, it got me to reflecting on how language and listening are all part of the communications hub.  In turning to my own experiences in parenting, friendships and workplace relationships, I realized that over time we often start “tuning out” those around us when they’re attempting to communicate with us:  nodding our head when our spouse vents about their work day, giving noncommittal email responses, throwing out the occasional “uh-huh” when our children rattle on about their play date or some new video game.  As a parent, I catch myself doing this:  “half listening” to my son telling me about his comic book or conversation with a schoolmate.  We all do it.    Continue reading

To Dream A Dream

Surreal DreamIt’s no secret that constructive fantasizing (visualization) increases goal realization. Putting ourselves in the mindset of picturing what it will look and feel like when we achieve our goals is motivating, focusing and capacity building.  It helps to give us a sensory framework for goal setting.  And, a positive, foundational outlook to attaining our dreams.  Continue reading

Touch: A Sensory Story

Our 5 senses:

  • The olfactory sense (smell) is often attributed to memory recall:  like the scent of a tobacco pipe after your childhood Superintendent, Gord has walked through the halls of your building.
  • Sight and sound we rely on heavily as navigational aides.
  • And, taste serves double duty as both a pleasure center and detector.

But, our dear, under-rated touch!  Touch is a unique sense which allows us to be in tune with our bodies, connect and convey non-verbal messages with one another, detect different forms and textures, and holds us to our humanity; it is grounding and comforting and NECESSARY regardless of age group.  Despite all of touch’s admirable traits it is still not fully valued in Western culture.  We’ve become saturated, and in some cases, desensitized by media and real world experiences of stylized, sexualized and unwanted forms of touching. Continue reading

Communication Quandary

Communication.
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It is such a broad and weighty term.  It’s a subject that commonly comes up in our workplace environment surveys and is frequently noted as a key challenge in our relationships, whether it’s work, family, or friends related.  Perhaps, when we use the word “communication”, what we are really referring to is “effective communication”.   Continue reading

Knowing We’re Growing Together

Two Trees at SunsetOur journey of growth and discovery can find us not always on par with our friends, families, co-workers and partners; our “growth speedometers” are not in sync.  Unfortunately, this can sometimes lead to unwanted conflict and tension in our relationships.   Continue reading

Laws of Attraction

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“Be confident to attract what you want!!” How many times in our lives have we heard those words of encouragement? What is attraction really and how do we generate it?   Continue reading